"Our own personal power, comes from what we may have heard, seen, or experienced when we were growing up."
No matter who you are in this world, we are all given an opportunity to choose who we want to be. There is an undeniable truth that a lot of our choices can be rooted back to pathology. Our own personal power, comes from what we may have heard, seen, or experienced when we were growing up. When it comes to parenting, I see many parents doing the impossible. If I see a mother or father who is going through a rough time in life, I want to remind all of them that THEY are the true superheroes balancing their own life, while doing their absolute best to make sure another life succeeds. You can do it!
Your Past can be your Greatest Power
"The feeling of understanding that my life was mine gave me a new beginning. Becoming a mother gave me purpose...and saved my entire life."
When I found my own personal power and confidence, it was in a way that most people would find a way to give me pity. I never wanted sympathy. I wanted to be myself and love every minute of it. At 17, I was lost with no sense of who I am or where I was going.
I got pregnant with my daughter, Z, when I was 17 years old. I didn't have a job, I wasn't married, and I was nearly homeless. While I was pregnant, I experienced homelessness and lived in my mother’s mini-van, with her, for two months. During this time of homelessness, I was also caring for my sister’s son who was two months old. Drug addiction hit her hard and we were all he had.
We did not look like the 'typical homeless' stereotype. No one would have known, and we did not know who to ask for help. When we had enough money for a hotel, we stayed in one to clean up and sleep in a warm bed. Those nights in a warm bed taught me a great deal about gratitude.
As I recount the events in my past, I want people to understand that depression, suicide, and worthlessness was something I woke up to every single day. It became a part of me. In January of 2012, I finally gave birth to Z. I had a supportive family who came to the room, but nobody stayed the night at the hospital with me. Nothing is more real and quiet than being in a hospital room....alone and in darkness, reflecting on a life you are accountable for. As lonely as this moment may sound, it was a moment that changed my entire life. I realized that it was up to me to make sure our lives would be successful. No one else could guide us. That was all up to me. The feeling of understanding that my life was mine gave me a new beginning. Becoming a mother gave me purpose...and saved my entire life.
Comparing Myself to Superwoman
"We all run into issues in our lives that can make us feel that we are not doing enough for our children. I am here to assure you that YOU are."
Fast forward to now! Over the years, I cannot tell you the hours, tears, and happiness I experienced creating who I am, while raising a daughter. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of myself as the Superwoman of my own life. At the age of 25, I fought to heal that broken 17-year old and to inspire others who may be struggling through parenting. We all run into issues in our lives that can make us feel that we are not doing enough for our children. I am here to assure you that YOU are. We all have our days when we feel we are doing the bare minimum with ourselves and children. I can assure you that, as superman flies over the city, he will never measure up to the super powers that it takes to succeed in parenting. There are days that we lay in bed, unsure of what is to come next, and that is ALRIGHT. Understanding your own personal power is vital to living. The day you wake up and decide that your life is yours, everything else falls into place. All superheroes fall and then have an incredible rise.
Parents: we are not and do not have to be perfect.
What we do daily to survive should be given great credit. We do it simply out of unconditional love to watch our children thrive. You are a superhero and deserve to feel like one too! I can happily say that now, I am financially stable, in college pursing a degree for Elementary education, and starting a daycare business here in Denver, Colorado.
I have found a passionate purpose that is dedicated to families and children. The very thing that saved my life: a dream that it is celebrated every single day.
About the Guest Blogger, Angela Thomas! Angela is a proud native of Denver, Colorado and hosts a vlog and online presence on parenthood and child development. The words that drive her soul every single day are, “Because someone planted a seed, another can enjoy the shade today.”